There are just some people who will never open up to you. There are some people that no matter how bad they want to be close to someone they will never truly succeed because they are too wrapped up in their own misery to give themselves to someone else. They don’t know how to give therefore they cannot receive. Friendship is a fierce thing. It requires a lot to be a friend to someone and to find a friend. How can you accept someone else giving of themselves, if you don’t understand it because you are not capable of it?

Our friends help us find a place in this world. Our friends are there for us when everything goes wrong and we hold our heads in our hands and cry. Our friends remind us that there is a purpose in this life, that we do indeed make contributions, and that we are special and loved. Without love, we are but an empty shell full of despair and anger. Our friends calm the chaos and in the same, we return the favor.

Everyone needs a friend, but not everyone knows what to do with one once one finds them. There are people that don’t know how to be loved. It may seem cruel and crushing to run away from those that need us the most, but what good can we be if we sacrifice ourselves for someone who hurts us. We cannot let someone else send us into despair. My mother once told me that you can not bring someone up to your level, they can only bring you down to theirs. I believe that someone can be brought up to a higher level, but ONLY if they want it for it themselves and the hand of a friend can help guide the way. The desire to come up from the darkness must be within them and the effort given must be theirs.

We all have our own demons that we deal with. Hopefully, we will be lucky enough to have a friend to be there for us and likewise, us for them. We can’t save everyone though, and those that wish to wallow in their sadness are the ones that break my heart my most. I try, I love, and I am here. That is all I can do.